dad-isms:

The only thing you can do is love.  You can’t make them love you more, love you deeper, or even love you back.  With that said, a relationship involves two people investing in one another daily, who mutually agree on a good 80% of life, and who hold the relationship…not the individual as their highest value.  

Relationships can’t, by design last long when one is giving and one is taking but I see a great many people that get their self-esteem from being the martyr in relationships.  If you bring everything and they bring nothing, or vice-versa you really don’t have much.  Sure, it’s easy to see yourself as the strong one and them as weaker and somehow you are the one saving them by being in their lives…but how long can that really last in two, five, or eight years?

Super Hero relationships don’t last.

Your relationship should and will have ebb and flow.  One will be stronger…at times, and the other will be weaker…and in six months the roles will reverse.  Your relationship should be like a see-saw, and in this way, I don’t mean the ups and downs, I mean the give and take.  

Balance.  Balance in all things….